食lunch既時候, 又同一個師奶傾開教小朋友呢個topic. 我自問我好respect人地點教佢地個小朋友. 我未必會認同, 不過我唔會話要佢改變佢個方式. 呢個世界無一個一套至完美既教小朋友方法. 每個小朋友都係獨一無二, 教既方法亦都唔同. 而教小朋友乜野係啱定係錯, 亦都只係全憑父母既教育知識. 我會教我個小朋友同性戀並唔係罪, 亦唔犯法. 現今社會未必人人都認同, 但係呢個係我個believe, 亦唔需要人地去認同. 我只可以教我個小朋友呢個世界係會有人反對你既想法, 要耐心去對待每一個人. 唔可以強逼人地要同意你. 但可以用理由去解釋點解你會覺得呢樣係啱, 等人地自己去諗. 今日呢個師奶, 佢一路都覺得我反對政府立例同性戀唔可以結婚係因為我未有小朋友, 針唔吉到肉唔知痛. 佢地個思想好狹窄. 佢今日同我講, 佢話舊年佢同幾個朋友 (另外一對夫婦係基督徒) 祈禱話希望我將來會有小朋友, 然後我就會改變我個思想. (當然係會好似佢地咁反對同性戀結婚, 覺得同性戀係一個不道德既風氣, 佢地先係神既兒女... 而政府應該根據majority既意願去立例discriminate同性戀者) 我好直接話呢個思想我係永遠都唔會改變. 因為佢地根本都唔明我個立場. 我話我個believe係同性戀無問題, 就算我個小朋友將來係同性戀者, 我都唔會干預. 我反對立例係因為政府double standard. 男同女可以結婚, 但係同性就唔可以. 就好似政府立例話偷野食就得, 偷錢就唔得. 又或者白鬼可以搭巴士, 但係黑鬼唔可以. 但係同師奶講野, 係唔可以講理由. 就等於同一個無文化既人講藝術... 我今次無勞氣. 我仲不經意地話佢地呢種人係好膚淺. 不過都唔知佢會唔會明...
但係我自問從來都唔會去干預人地點樣教仔, 又或者批評佢既諗法係絕對錯. 我亦都好憎人話你未做阿媽你係唔會明. 我相信做咗阿媽係有一定既影響, 但係我亦都係一個有知識既人, 我唔會要求人地去改變黎遷就我教仔既方法. 我會去教我小朋友去分辨乜野係啱乜野係錯, 社會有好多野都唔係可以自己控制得到. 而且一樣米養百樣人, 唔可以話全世界都同你一樣諗法.
我不犯人, 亦希望人不犯我. 大家唔駛幫我祈禱. 我唔需要你幫...
Friday, April 03, 2009
Monday, March 16, 2009
Who do they think they are?
So I understand that as a first time mom there are a lot of things that I need to "learn" from past experiences from other moms. I welcome anyone who's willing to share how miserable their life was for the first few months, how much trouble their babies have, etc... however, I don't like them telling me what MY experience will be when my baby comes, and that I won't be able to carry out MY PLANS as I was hoping to. Just because they were unable to let their babies cry for more than 2 seconds doesn't mean I will do exactly the same. I have a different personality than them as well as different approach on how I am going to handle my baby situation. I might end up be the same just like ALL the other moms they were referring to, but I don't like people telling me that my way will not work.
I also would like to stand by my plan to have my mother-in-law to help me out during the first few months. I will try to control my hormone as well as I could and will be a grateful daughter-in-law who appreciates any help she could get. Even though she might not be a professional doula, but I would trust her than a stranger that gets pay for the job.
Also that I have faith that my husband will be a good father. He will feel the same pain as I feel when the baby hits the head on the floor, he will care about the baby's well being just like I do. Just because their husbands are idiots doesn't mean my husband is one as well.
I need to stop talking to people who thinks they know it all just because they have had babies before!
I also would like to stand by my plan to have my mother-in-law to help me out during the first few months. I will try to control my hormone as well as I could and will be a grateful daughter-in-law who appreciates any help she could get. Even though she might not be a professional doula, but I would trust her than a stranger that gets pay for the job.
Also that I have faith that my husband will be a good father. He will feel the same pain as I feel when the baby hits the head on the floor, he will care about the baby's well being just like I do. Just because their husbands are idiots doesn't mean my husband is one as well.
I need to stop talking to people who thinks they know it all just because they have had babies before!
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Odds
So after the NT screening, I had my first blood drawn checking for birth defects. I got a call back from the clinic today telling me that the odds for my baby to have Downs are 1 in 2500 (which is good consider with my age it's 1 in 381, that's a big improvement). And the odds for the baby to have Trisomy 18 defect is 1 in 10000. She said that it's the lowest risk factor they give out. I'll have to have a second blood drawn in a few weeks to check for some other chemicals in it to get a higher accuracy. But so far the odds are looking pretty good.
Monday, February 23, 2009
NT screening
Another ultrasound!
I'm about 13 weeks along and it's about time to do an NT screening for Downs and some other possible birth defect.
The ultrasound went well, I was lying there for about 10-15 minutes where the tech is taking all kinds of pictures. My hubby can see everything on the monitor but I'm not facing it, so can't see a single thing. He was making funny faces and stupid gestures while the tech was doing the scanning. At one point he was pretending to be the baby and making rock n' roll hand signals! Yeah Right! Well, maybe my baby will be a guitar hero someday playing in a rock band! ^.^
In the end the tech finally let me see the monitor and there I saw a semi-human form thing in there bouncing and flexing both hands. At one point I thought it reminds me of the tiny little baby sea turtles I saw at the Aquarium. Bouncing around in the water having so much fun. I'm just glad that this tiny thing in me is growing like it should be, and we saw the heart beating again and things look "great" according to the doctor. I'll take it at face value and no more questions! :)
I'm about 13 weeks along and it's about time to do an NT screening for Downs and some other possible birth defect.
The ultrasound went well, I was lying there for about 10-15 minutes where the tech is taking all kinds of pictures. My hubby can see everything on the monitor but I'm not facing it, so can't see a single thing. He was making funny faces and stupid gestures while the tech was doing the scanning. At one point he was pretending to be the baby and making rock n' roll hand signals! Yeah Right! Well, maybe my baby will be a guitar hero someday playing in a rock band! ^.^
In the end the tech finally let me see the monitor and there I saw a semi-human form thing in there bouncing and flexing both hands. At one point I thought it reminds me of the tiny little baby sea turtles I saw at the Aquarium. Bouncing around in the water having so much fun. I'm just glad that this tiny thing in me is growing like it should be, and we saw the heart beating again and things look "great" according to the doctor. I'll take it at face value and no more questions! :)
Friday, January 23, 2009
UltraSound
I've been seeing some light spotting, and called my doc. She made me go have an ultrasound done just to see what's going on.
I had to drink 4 glasses of water before that. By the time I finished my second glass, I'm about to throw up. Have to slowly finish my last two glasses. By the time I got to the clinic, my bladder is about to explode. Turns out, my bladder is too full to do an ultrasound.... WTF!!
The worst is that I have to empty just half of it (how the hell would I know what's half?) before they can do the ultrasound. And the nurse told me I only need to drink 2 glasses next time! >_<""
We saw the heart beating!
And they said I have a very small amount of subchorionic hematoma, which they are not sure why, but it's no big deal! That's the reason why I'm seeing some small amount of blood... and those that are in there, will eventually be absorbed by the body.
Well, at least they told me things look "normal".... whatever that means!
I had to drink 4 glasses of water before that. By the time I finished my second glass, I'm about to throw up. Have to slowly finish my last two glasses. By the time I got to the clinic, my bladder is about to explode. Turns out, my bladder is too full to do an ultrasound.... WTF!!
The worst is that I have to empty just half of it (how the hell would I know what's half?) before they can do the ultrasound. And the nurse told me I only need to drink 2 glasses next time! >_<""
We saw the heart beating!
And they said I have a very small amount of subchorionic hematoma, which they are not sure why, but it's no big deal! That's the reason why I'm seeing some small amount of blood... and those that are in there, will eventually be absorbed by the body.
Well, at least they told me things look "normal".... whatever that means!
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
First Appointment
So this is real. At least that's what the nurse said when she took my pee sample for another test.
Got some blood drawn for tests and got a lot of free samples of prenatal vitamins. Gotta try different one out...
I also started gagging a lot 2 days ago... at least no throwing up yet.
Got some blood drawn for tests and got a lot of free samples of prenatal vitamins. Gotta try different one out...
I also started gagging a lot 2 days ago... at least no throwing up yet.
Friday, January 09, 2009
So anxious
My first appointment will be next Wednesday (1/14). I've not been experiencing a lot of symptoms other than the stupid sore boobs! Good that I wasn't feeling nauseous, but sometime it's just hard to walk by the breakroom when people are heating up their lunch... especially with fish! Cigarettes smell are also making me sick.
Sometimes I wonder if there's really something there, or I'm just imagining it? Too bad I won't be getting an ultra sound until at least a month later probably.... hope we'll see a heartbeat!
It's so hard to keep it as a secret. It's been more than a week since I found out. I so wanted to tell my parents but I don't want to get their hopes up and then disappoint them when this little thing doesn't stick. The best is just to wait til it's stable... it'll be a very tough 6 weeks to go...
Sometimes I wonder if there's really something there, or I'm just imagining it? Too bad I won't be getting an ultra sound until at least a month later probably.... hope we'll see a heartbeat!
It's so hard to keep it as a secret. It's been more than a week since I found out. I so wanted to tell my parents but I don't want to get their hopes up and then disappoint them when this little thing doesn't stick. The best is just to wait til it's stable... it'll be a very tough 6 weeks to go...
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